Dear Mann Landers,

I would love to meet a great girl, but I feel like I’ve exhausted all contacts within my social networks. You can only ask your friends, or your friends’ girlfriends to keep you in mind for any of their single friends so many times before you get labelled “that guy”.

I’m not crazy about the idea of meeting people online, and I just feel guilty about volunteering or getting involved in my community with the underlying purpose being that I want to meet new girls.

Suggestions?

Tapped Out, in Tuscon

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Dear Tapped Out,

Provided you’re a relatively young guy - I can think of one stone that is likely un-turned …. your friends’ moms!

No, I’m not suggesting you try to be the second coming of Finch from American Pie…. remove this image from your mind immediately:

No, what I’m suggesting is that you tap into the highly connected network of women that are readily available to you. Picture these wholesome motherly type:

Do whatever it takes to get yourself invited over to a family dinner at a friend’s place. Bring a token of appreciation in the form of a dessert, or maybe some flowers … moms love that. Engage with the mom in a subtle dance of flirtation so as to get her “train” of thought onto the “tracks of romance”. Come prepared to dinner with plenty to talk about:

• 2 random funny stories
• 1 simple joke
• 1 endearing story about your childhood
• A clear and concise explanation of what you aspire to do with your life

If you follow that plan, you’ll successfully come across as the charming guy that relishes family, and has real goals in life.

Do you know what mom’s do when they meet charming guys, that relish family and have real goals in life?  They set them up with the beautiful daughters of the women in their pilates class.

You’re welcome,

Mann Landers